My first two days (ok, YEARS) as a single mom were filled with doubt, fear, anxiety and buckets of tears. I didn't talk much about it, being a personal and business coach, as well as a motivational speaker and all. I kept it to myself, and the head noise got quite loud.

Eventually I realized what I was doing wasn't working ~ and, as a coach I was giving people advice I wasn't taking myself. When I started coaching myself, that's when things really started to turn around.

I created a million dollar business, wrote a book, and even bought a house in a country club. All as a single mom.

I noticed, however, that society doesn't view the single mom as a heroine, she's viewed as a victim. When described, we hear, "Awww, she's a single mom. That's too bad. Be sure not to hire her, because her kid might get sick. Don't date her, she just wants a new baby-daddy. Stear clear. And while we're at it, let's blame her for the problems of the world."

Whoa.

In my mind, I felt those were all the wrong assumptions. Who's more capable than a single mom? Who's better at time management? I'll tell you what, I'd take a single mom as my wing-woman any time!

As a matter of fact, I have one. She's helping me to lead the Single Mom Revolution. We're on a mission to change the way single moms see themselves, and the way the world sees them. You may know her as Modern Single Momma, and now she's Modern Married Momma. She's Morgan Day Cecil and she's fabulous! See what she has to say about our Revolution here.

We have lots of plans for single moms ~ we want them happy and successful and wealthy and healthy ~ right now! Tomorrow (6/23, 10 am PT/1 pm ET) we're launching The Single Mom Revolution Radio Show. We're having powerful, successsful single moms (and former single moms) on the show and we're committed to change, to empowering, enlightening, inspiring, motivating and transforming you, our fellow single mom. Our first guest is Ms. Single Mama, Alaina Sheer. She's just amazing and we're going to talk to her about her single-mom-fabulousness and what's coming up for her.

There's 11 million of us, and we're a force to be reckoned with. Are you in?

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... don't say anything at all. The more I read and hear about the single mom of 14, the more I think it applies.

She had six ... she tried in-vitro to have one more. If she hadn't had eight in one shot, we would never have heard of her.

Just for a moment, put yourself in her shoes. Have you ever made a mistake in your life? Would you like every talk show, talking head and news outlet scrutinizing and criticizing your decision(s)? Let's add post-birth hormones to the mix and its amazing the woman hasn't gone postal! I have no idea what that would be like, but like most of my less-than-perfect decisions, I can be thankful I didn't have the world focused on my imperfections.

That's not to say there weren't opportunities for better decisions. Its just that you're either a part of the solution, or a part of the problem. When you criticize, you are part of the problem.

We're all in agreement that unless one was already independently wealthy, there's just no preparation for this situation. How about instead of criticizing, you send her some diapers, offer to watch (some of) the kids so she can nap, relax, or enjoy her other children? At the very least, pray for her and have some compassion.

Nadya, blessings on your head and the heads of all of your children. Namaste.

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My book publicist called today to say a show that is considering booking me is on the fence because of the title of the first chapter of The Successful Single Mom, which is: "Oh Shit Day". They are a family show and think their viewers might be offended (of course I would never use the word shit "on air"). That's the title because that sure is how I felt the first day I was a single mom!

Is the word shit too much? Does it resonate with you? Should I change the title or hold my ground? What do you think? Let me know your thoughts, please, and the sooner the better!

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