I'm on my way here in just a few hours (Harbour Island, The Bahamas). I'm taking my first two-week vacation ever, and I'm so excited! Its also my one-year wedding anniversary today. There simply a lot to be thankful for and I am definitely (beyond!) thankful.

I met a woman a few days ago who said, "You wrote this book, but you're married. How did you come to write the book?" During the course of the conversation, she all but told me I was probably very unrelatable to the average single mom, and then asked me how I got from "there" to "here."

I'll address the first point first (makes sense, yes?) First, I was a single mom for more than six years. A sometimes optimistic, sometimes angry and sad single mom. I believe I have experienced just about every challenge my fellow single moms have experienced. I can relate to you just as easily as you can relate to me. Second, I'm now a successful remarried mom. Those two things I think pre-qualify me.

How I got from there to here could and will be multiple posts. I'll start where I started: with a decision. I made the decision to not settle for anything, ever again. I decided to raise my standards and upgrade my expectations ~ in every area of my life.

There were several opportunities I had to marry a great guy, take a job in lieu of growing my business, stay in a home I liked but didn't love ... and each time I challenged myself to (a) say out loud what I really wanted and (b) go for each and every one of them, no matter how rocky the road.

Because I'm a coach, I don't want to just share my journey with you, I want you to experience your own best life!! Here are some questions to help you get started:

1. Where do you have 'pain' (emotional, spiritual, financial, in relationships, physical and professional) in your life?
2. Where do you know you're not living up to your potential and what's possible for you?
3. Decide right now you're no longer willing to settle for, and what you're going to strive to achieve ~ no matter what. Write those things down.

Shining a light on the dark areas of your life is quite possibly the most courageous thing you may ever do. Remember that you will survive it and you will thrive because of it.

To you!

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So it seems to me that single moms are coming out of the woodwork... or maybe I'm just seeing it more?  Although I've been a single mom for over 12 years now, it seems it's just been this year that single moms are everywhere.  Maybe it's because I don't feel as if that is some sort of affliction anymore.  Maybe it's because of Honoree and her book that I feel that I'm not so alone.  Whatever the reason, I'm feeling the strength of single moms growing!

Part of my awareness is also about this site, the book, and the radio show.  I keep thinking of these various single moms that either need to read Honoree's book or be interviewed on her radio show.  Like poor Kate Goslin (from Jon & Kate plus 8.... minus one now), she needs Honoree's book like no body's business!  She's about to embark on single motherhood with 8 kids and a million paparazi and billions of TV viewers.  There's no better example of someone who needs Honoree's help through this period in her life!

 Then there's Mary Pols, author of the book "Accidentally On Purpose: The True Tale of a Happy Single Mother" which is being made into a sitcom this fall.   I got the chance to preview the sitcom and review it (which will be posted on my personal blog in the next day or two) and I just loved it!  Mary Pols would be a perfect guest on Single Mom Revolution Radio!  She's funny, interesting, and has traversed through this single mommyhood in a unique way.  

 Whatever the situation that brought us to this point in our lives, by accident or by circumstances, what I see more than anything else, is that we are not alone!  There is someone else who is going through or has gone through  what you are going through.  That's what this community is about too.  To come together and give each other encouragment and support and to show you that you are not alone!  That one thing has made me feel so good, so strong in my life, to know that I'm NOT alone!

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