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I have a dating dilemma.... and no it's not me.  It's my son!  Roger, who will be 16 this month, may be going out on his first date this month!  ACK!  I just don't know what I should or shouldn't do, so I need some sage advice from moms who have been there and done that.

My question really is, do I go with them to the movie or do I just drop them off and pick them up?

Part of me wants to go with my son and his date, to make sure they behave themselves.  But another part of me feels like he needs his privacy.  I just don't know what the right thing to do here is. 

I never really went out on too many dates when I was his age.  It was generally a group of friends going places together or hanging out at someone's house.  I didn't start actually dating until I was in my early twenties and that's when I met my ex-husband.  So this is all new territory for  me!

 HELP!!  What would YOU do?  What have YOU done?  Any and all suggestions would be greatly appreciated!


So it seems to me that single moms are coming out of the woodwork... or maybe I'm just seeing it more?  Although I've been a single mom for over 12 years now, it seems it's just been this year that single moms are everywhere.  Maybe it's because I don't feel as if that is some sort of affliction anymore.  Maybe it's because of Honoree and her book that I feel that I'm not so alone.  Whatever the reason, I'm feeling the strength of single moms growing!

Part of my awareness is also about this site, the book, and the radio show.  I keep thinking of these various single moms that either need to read Honoree's book or be interviewed on her radio show.  Like poor Kate Goslin (from Jon & Kate plus 8.... minus one now), she needs Honoree's book like no body's business!  She's about to embark on single motherhood with 8 kids and a million paparazi and billions of TV viewers.  There's no better example of someone who needs Honoree's help through this period in her life!

 Then there's Mary Pols, author of the book "Accidentally On Purpose: The True Tale of a Happy Single Mother" which is being made into a sitcom this fall.   I got the chance to preview the sitcom and review it (which will be posted on my personal blog in the next day or two) and I just loved it!  Mary Pols would be a perfect guest on Single Mom Revolution Radio!  She's funny, interesting, and has traversed through this single mommyhood in a unique way.  

 Whatever the situation that brought us to this point in our lives, by accident or by circumstances, what I see more than anything else, is that we are not alone!  There is someone else who is going through or has gone through  what you are going through.  That's what this community is about too.  To come together and give each other encouragment and support and to show you that you are not alone!  That one thing has made me feel so good, so strong in my life, to know that I'm NOT alone!


My oldest son, who is 15 now, is into all things "Goth" and Vampires.  He likes to wear all black, and dark clothes, and even tries to wear a black snow cap during the summer!  Of course, I only let him wear the hat either during the winter or inside the house, because we live in Las Vegas, it's too hot for a snow cap of ANY color outside.  LOL!  

Generally his "style" is pretty normal.  Jeans, T-shirt, just usually a black t-shirt.   So he doesn't look "goth", just looks like a teen aged boy.  However, now he wants to take his "style" one step further and wants to wear black nail polish.  I allowed him to try it on, but said he couldn't go outside the house with it on.  Of course he loved it.  I knew he would.  Now he wants to wear the black nail polish all the time. 

 I just don't know  if I should let him do that.  I want to allow him to express himself, but at the same time I also know how some people in the world look at kids with black nail polish.  I don't want him to be saying something to the world that could give him negative reactions.... possibly even dangerous reactions.  But am I over reacting?

Roger, my son, says he doesn't care  what anyone else thinks and that he likes the idea of people thinking he's weird.  Which I can remember feeling like that when I was his age as well.  But still..... I just don't know if I should let him wear the nail polish.

So what do you all think?  When you see a teen aged boy wearing black nail polish, what does  that say to you?  Do you think I should let him wear it outside the house?


Memorial Day Weekend turned into a nice little weekend for my little family.  As you may already know, I have two teen aged boys.  Being a single mom (even with a live in boyfriend) it can be rather expensive to  do many things that are fun and educational.  For 4 people, even the "low cost" activities can get out of hand.  So I'm always trying to find something to do that is fun, educational AND free!   GeoCaching happens to be one of the few things that we can do together that fits all three criteria, AND even my teens love doing it!

 

What is GeoCaching?  You can find out more about it on the GeoCaching website.  Although the activitie and website itself is free (you can upgrade your account for a nominal monthly or yearly fee for more features), you do have to have a GPS to participate. Once you have an account on GeoCaching.com and a GPS device, then  you can start caching.

 It's like a treasure or scavenger hunt that the entire world participates in.  You go to the GeoCaching website, search for caches by zip code, download a list of the caches into your GPS device, and then off you go hunting.  You can do this for whatever area you are in, whether it's local or in another city or state... there are even GeoCaches in other countries!  So where ever you are, where ever you go, you can go GeoCaching.  This makes for a great way to get to know an area in ways that most travel guides or tours don't give you.

Each Cache is a little different.  Some are "Micro-Caches", which are generally little pill bottles, film canisters, or other small containers, with a "log book" (which is just a long peice of lined paper rolled up) for you put your user name and date on.  Others can be as large as an ammo can or tupperware container.  The large containers will have "trade items" in them.  These are little items that you can take for yourself, but you have to leave an item in it's place. There are "Multi-Cahces" which are like little clues leading you from one cahce to the next.  These can be easy or very difficult depending on the person who set the Multi-Cache up.

The "Trade Items" are really what my sons love the most about GeoCaching.  Even though they generally keep the item just long enough to trade it in another cache, it's still like burried treasure for them.  The type of items left in the cache depend on the cache itself.  There are some caches that have a "theme", such as one we searched for was all about aliens, so the items inside the container were all aliens or alien themed.   Another cache we searched for had a theme of wilderness survival.  It was a "memorial" cache for a young hiker who had gotten lost and died near that spot.  The person who set up the cache did it to remind people to be careful and prepared when they go hiking.  Inside the cahce were items such as a rain poncho, compass, a small poket knife, and other small survival items.  It was a great conversation starter with the boys for sure!

On Monday, the boys, Steve and I all went out GeoCaching around our neighborhood.  It was a nice day to do it too!  We set out to find the nearest one to our house, which was at a local  park which is right by our house.  The next one we went to was by a man made lake, which I didn't know was so close to our house!  It was in a beautiful neighborhood, but unfortunately we couldn't find the cache itself... but we did find a great place to go when we want to cool off and feed the ducks.  There was even a family of baby ducks there!  

The next one we went to was in a park behind our local library.  A part of the park that we hadn't been to before.  It was a good one that was difficult to find, but my youngest son found it which made him feel really good because of how well hidden it had been.  Another nice thing about GeoCaching is that it gives kids an incentive to think logically and outside of themselves to find something someone else hid.  It's great exercise for the brain for sure!

This is one of my favorite outdoor activities to do with my sons.  We will usually take a picnic, plan out where we're going to go, and then just travel from one cache to the next for the better part of the day.  We've gone hiking in the mountains looking for caches, and just jumping out the car in a mall parking lot.  They are all fun for all ages!

 Once you've found a few caches, you might also like creating one with your kids too.  Get them thinking of a great place to hide it, figuring out either someplace that no one knows about that you all love to go to, or someplace that will have an interesting theme to it.  Then pick out the size of the cache, micro, small, medium, or large and then the items for trading, if any.  No matter what age your kids are, they'll have fun creating this little treasure hunt that will last a long time.  Then once you've placed your cache you can watch all the people who have found it through the GeoCaching website.

I hope you'll try it out and have fun!


I've noticed that when I hit a breakthrough emotionally, phsycially, spiritually, I have a tendency to back off, retreat, and withdraw from everything and everyone.  The only people that I don't really withdraw from are my boys.  I don't know if Steve has noticed a withdrawl, since I didn't realize it until today. 

So what's been going on?  Well in my last blog post I realized that I was scared of Steve leaving me and worried about changing myself too much because maybe that will be the why he leaves me.  I realized that I trust him more than I've trusted anyone in my whole life and that I love him with all my heart and soul.  I also realized that he's not going to go anywhere unless I push him away.  Which of course led me to worry about how I was going to push him away.  

Can you tell I was coming to a little bit of a crisis?  So what did I do?  Did I start working more with all the tools that my coach, Honoree, gave me to help me get past this crisis?  No.  Did I reach out and ask for help?  No.  What I did do was retreat, withdraw, and back off even more.  I hit a wall of feeling sorry for myself, feeling scared, and sabatoging myself.

Once upon a time I was told by a spiritual teacher that you can always tell when you're on the right path when all your demons come out to haunt you.  So you can say that my life has been come Demon Central lately, which technically is a good sign that I've been on the right path.  The thing is that you have to recognize this and start taking right actions, rather than letting yourself wallow in self pitty.  So that's what I've been doing this last week... making better choices and taking the steps and using the tools that my coach has given me.

Last week I started listening to my affirmations and doing meditations again.  I've been reading and writing my affirmations every day and saying them each morning.  I've found some great inspirational YouTube movies online to give myself some energy when my day is going bad.  And guess what's been happening this week.  My business has almost doubled in this week alone!

That's only the beginning.  I'm feeling energized, positive, happy, strong, and on the right path again.  I hit that wall, but I didn't let it knock me down and out forever.  I got up, dusted myself off, and I'm back running the marathon (proverbial marathon).  Now, I know that I haven't been doing my exercises or eating healthy lately, but I do know that I'm feeling good about myself.  I know I can get myself going again.  I enjoyed doing the various exercises and I liked how I felt when I was doing them.  So I can do that again.  

I'm also starting to write again... as is evidenced by this blog post, my first blog post on any website in a month!  I actually feel like writing agian!  So watch for more posts from me and if you don't see one, call me on it!  We all need someone to say "Hey!  Where are you?  What are you doing?"

So... what are you doing?  Are you backing away because of fear?  Are you reaching out to your support system or hiding from them?  What do YOU need to help keep you going on that path?  Reach out to someone and let us know what you need.