The first couple of years of being a single mom were some of the toughest and darkest years I can remember. Wondering if I would be single forever. Hopeful I would be a good mom and would raise a happy, well-adjusted young lady. Wanting to be successful enough to provide not just the basics but some extras, too.

 The lesson that kept repeating itself until I got it (and isn't that the way it always is?) was this: Everything always works out the way its supposed to, and suffering is optional.

Worrying doesn't help. Stressing doesn't help. Trying to force a result doesn't work. The only thing that I know for sure that works is to let go and have faith. A positive attitude and expecting great things also makes the process easier. 

If you're "in your shit," in the midst of a challenge, or just having a tough day, let the situation go. Expect everything to work out for the good of all concerned and put your focus on what's really important: you and your kids.

Hang in there, single moms. It really will all be okay.

"The antidote of fear is faith." ~Honoree